Discipline is helping children develop self-control
and appropriate social behavior. It is one of a parent's most important, yet most difficult, tasks. By following proven disciplinary ideas, this job can be much easier and great results can be accomplished. Good parental discipline builds responsible children with positive self-esteem and values.
Why Children Misbehave
Lack of positive role models
Frustration or anger
Feelings of neglect
Inadequate parental interest and guidance
Extremely high expectations from adults
Failing grades in school
Reaction to family changes such as divorce or separation
To seek attention - negative attention may seem better than no attention
What You Can Do
Parent's Toolbox - Prevention Tools:
Check the Basics: Is the child hungry, tired or sick? Some children become irritable at predictable times of the day.
Communicate Clear Expectations:
Children need to know what behavior parents expect. Instructions should be stated as simply as possible using words your child can understand, speaking clearly, with eye contact to be sure you have his/her attention. Tell your child why the behavior is important. After you've clearly stated your expectations, consider rehearsing the desired behavior with the child if the situation is appropriate.
Change The Environment: The environment can be changed (something taken away, added, or rearranged) to avoid inappropriate behavior. For instance, if a two-year-old is pulling the leaves off your plants, the plants can be moved to a higher shelf. Make the environment fit the needs of the child.
Model Appropriate Behavior: Children imitate the behavior of others. Show your children how you want them to behave. Children learn from what they see. If they see appropriate behaviors, they will act appropriately.
Plan Transitions: Many people, especially young children, have difficulty changing activities without warning. (For example, your three-year-old is watching his favorite TV show; you tell him it's time for bed.) Preparing your child for transitions ("As soon as this show is over, it will be time to get ready for bed") and involving him in the next activity ("You can choose which pajamas you want to wear") may smooth this stress.
Use Humor: Many times, potentially tense or difficult moments can be eased by humor, silliness, or a hug. Try using a puppet. Sometimes a child will cooperate with a puppet's request while resisting yours. Sometimes we just need to lighten up.
Offer A Choice Between Two Alternatives: Offering a child a choice helps her to feel she has control over her life and helps gain her cooperation. Ask your child, "would you rather wear your nightgown or pajamas to bed?" or "What would you like to do before we leave the park, swing for five minutes or play on the slide for five minutes?"
Reduce Boredom: Some children get into trouble when they are bored. Involving them in an interesting activity or conversation will redirect their energy.
Thank you to the Child Abuse Prevention Center in Sacramento for this great article. Please visit their website for more valuable resources and information.
Mini-Grants Now Available!
We are excited to announce that funding is available for Family Strengthening mini-grant proposals for the 2018-19 fiscal year. Mini-grants will be awarded up to $2,000. Funding is provided by the Amador Child Abuse Prevention Council (ACAPC).
Grants are available for qualified organizations and agencies to provide Family Strengthening programs within the County of Amador.
Family Strengthening is the premise that children do well when families do well, and that families do well when they live in supportive communities. Enhancing connections within families, and between families, and the institutions that affect them, result in better outcomes for children and their families.
The second Thursday of every month, from 10:00am - 12:00pm, the Child Abuse Prevention Council is holding free mandated reporter trainings. Open to parents, child care providers, teachers, the community, staff or colleagues needing a refresher course, or new staff with no previous training, give us a call, (209) 223-5921. For the flyer with all the information, click HERE.
The relationship between adversity within a family and adversity within a community are directly related. Nourish the soil and the roots, and your leaves and blossoms will flourish and grow! Ignore the soil and the roots, and the leaves and flowers will wither away.
The Child Abuse Prevention Council is working towards building a community that tends its soil so everyone can thrive!
To learn more or to get involved, give us a call (209) 223-5921, or send us an email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
All children know how they are valued; all families receive the support, education and tools necessary to give every child a safe, healthy, and nurturing home; and a community that actively supports the health, safety, and education of its children.
CAPC is committed to preventing all forms of child abuse in Amador County through community partnerships, free trainings, education, and family-centered events that value children, strengthen families, and engage communities.
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